Anytime I meet a parent dealing with teen rebellion, they usually have a frustrated, anxious, depressed look. They may fold and refold a moist kleenex, with shaking hands as they unfold the problems they face. While most moms dab at swollen eyes, dad’s are red faced and look as if they are going to explode.
Teen rebellion feels as if your beautiful sand castle of love has been kicked over and replaced with a billboard that lists all your faults for the world to see. The love and care you gave your child no longer matters. He/she is in trouble. No wonder you feel as though your beautiful child was kidnapped and replaced with an evil twin. It’s hard to hug and be loving. It’s hard to want to talk. It’s hard to know what to do to survive.
Maybe it’s time to check in with the Mommy Detective and take a refresher course on what causes Teen Rebellion. Once you know the causes, you can design a solution to help your teen calm down and get a grip on his/her life. Check out all the posts on Teen Rebellion at The Mommy Detective.
If you have small children, you will have plenty of time to eliminate the reasons for Teen Rebellion. If you have a teen that is currently experiencing rebellion, we have answers. Once we’ve explored the 25 causes for rebellion, we will give you a 5 point method to reduce the rebellion in your home.
Rebellion reason #6 is based on logic. How logical are you? Have you taught your child to make decisions based on logic or on emotions?
A few weeks ago our family was thrust into a situation where we had to deal with an adult that had not developed logical reasoning. We personally experienced the chaos, hurt feelings, anxiety and stress of trying to deal with illogical behavior. It was as if we were trying to nail jello to the wall. Decisions were illogical so they were always changing to fit some new emotion this person faced. Because the decisions weren’t based on absolute truth, emotions drove each new thought and kept everyone involved constantly off balance.
When we finally walked away and returned to our calm logical home, Ron and I realized how our bodies had suffered. We were mentally and physically exhausted. The stress not only caused personal harm, it took it’s toll on our relationship. We had to be intentional not to pick at each other. We had to work to keep our own emotions in check and to respond to each other with kindness. A few days of logical living and we were back to the sweetness we both enjoy in our marriage.
Rebellion and illogical behaviors can make you physically sick. They can wear down even the calmest people and cause you to experience anxiety, stress and physical issues. The most important thing you can do for the physical and mental health of your family is to become “logical” in everything you say and in every decision you make.
Check out the new post Why Teens Rebel? – Cause #6 on the Mommy Detective
I pray you have a stress free day…
Debbie